While we all hope that those in a position of power, or a position of trust, will not abuse that position, it happens all too often. This type of trauma leaves great confusion, self-doubt, isolation, and maybe an existential crisis in the betrayed. Betrayal by a loved and trusted one is a significantly painful, complex trauma.
The wolf in sheep's clothing could be a parent who was supposed to care for you, but instead, harmed you. Maybe it was an ex (or current) partner who gaslights you into feeling crazy. Or was it a teacher, a religious leader, a doctor, a self-help 'guru,' a babysitter... or maybe even a counselor? Manipulators use the things they learn about you, against you.
This causes great hesitation in being open and vulnerable again (rightfully so). It can cause a paranoia of the good things in life they weaponized to hook you: love, trust, empathy, sympathy, help, etc. This makes it difficult to meet new people when they show real kindness because it can all look and sound the same. You might now realize that it doesn't all feel the same, though. I am going to focus on deeply validating you as you move towards finding and trusting your gut again.
This was not your fault. This should not have happened. And, you deserved better.
I'd like to help you. I understand the delicate position I will have in your journey. You have been greatly let down. I will be open and transparent. We will go at the pace that feels best for you and we will quickly set parameters for you to feel safe.
It is possible to feel like yourself again. To see yourself again. To be at peace again.